Affirm

In June 2018, Canadian Memorial resoundingly voted yes to joining the Affirming Ministries network after an intentional year of reflection and education on what it means to be fully inclusive of LGBTQ2SIA  people.

WHAT DOES BEING AN AFFIRMING MINISTRY MEAN?

Affirm United/ S’affirmer Ensemble works for the full inclusion of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities in the United Church of Canada and in society.

Affirming ministries declare in both words and actions that God loves and accepts people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. They commit to continued education and work for justice and inclusion of all people: combating racism, sexism, homophobia and  transphobia; increasing accessibility; and challenging bias and discrimination based on appearance, culture, class, or age. They acknowledge the hurt that has been caused and continues to be caused to the LGBTQ2SIA community by religious groups.

CMUC had an inclusive marriage policy for many years, along with other life event forms that reflected different family configurations, and LGBTQ folk  in the congregation or serving on the ministry team. This next step was being public and explicit about our beliefs through new language in our vision and mission statement, signage around the church building, website and bulletin, and developing an action plan focused on continued education and justice work.

Check out our action plan below and frequently asked questions along with our resources page.

What Happens Now That We’re Affirming?

Becoming Affirming is an explicit show of our belief that all sexual orientations and gender identities are part of God’s divine plan and gift of diversity in humanity. It is a public affirmation to let the wider community know that we are a safe place not only for LGBTQ2SIA refugees, immigrants, and Canadians, but also for their families, friends and allies to find a place to belong and a home to worship in.

We’ve updated language in our vision and mission statement, signage around the church, and information in the bulletin and website that let people know what we believe. We celebrated our Affirm designation with a special worship service on September 16, 2018. What else are we planning to do in the next year? Take a look:

  • Participate in an LGBTQ2SIA community event (Pride, Dyke March, Transgender March, Transgender Day of Remembrance)
  • Expand inclusive language used in worship service including prayers (community concerns) and hymns.
  • Create or collect visuals, stories and rituals for kids/youth to affirm the expression of their whole selves and different family configurations. Integrate this work year round, thoughtfully working with Bible stories and families.
  • Create poetry, prose, lyric writing, and art with Affirm focus.
  • Host educational workshops/events around: intersectionality of systemically oppressed groups (priority); active witnessing/ allyship; how to talk to people with different views; identifying invisible privilege; addressing heterosexism, homophobia, transphobia;, and sex shaming.
  • Identify ways to support Rainbow Refugee’s work.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:

Why do we need the Affirming designation?

 Why can’t we just say, “Everyone is welcome”? Many churches who say “all are welcome” still exclude LGBTQ2SIA people to varying degrees: from outright condemnation, encouraging conversion therapy,  allowing membership but excluding leadership, allowing single or celibate LGBTQ people to participate but rejecting those in relationships, refusing to marry non-heterosexual couples or non-gender conforming couples, and using language in worship that excludes non-straight, non-gender conforming, or transgender people. LGBTQ folk are rightly wary of being discriminated against and rejected by the church after years of hurt and pain. Even within the United Church of Canada, there are many congregations who do not fully welcome and include LGBTQ people.

“Welcoming is a hollow word to many of us. We expect religion
to reject us, and so often, across denominations and churches, this is
the case. It is hard for us to even fathom the possibility that we could
actually be welcome.”—Transgender member of the United Church

Isn’t Canada a progressive, inclusive country?

While Canada has significant legal protections for queer folk, living in Canada does not guarantee equal treatment and respect in the day to day experience of LGBTQ folk. LGBTQ youth in Canada experience much higher rates of bullying and harassment than straight and cisgender peers, along with thoughts about or attempts at suicide. Faith based schools in Alberta are challenging a court ruling that bans schools from revealing to parents if their child has joined a gay-straight alliance.  Richmond was one of the last cities in the province to adopt the SOGI 123 program that addresses bullying and harassment based on gender identity and sexual orientation and uses curriculum to reflect and teach about diversity (June 2018).  At least 7 BC school districts have candidates running in the October 2018 school board elections seeking to repeal the SOGI curriculum. Currently, LGBTQ seniors fear they will have to go back into the closet or face discrimination and mistreatment in long term care facilities.

After 12 years of attempts, gender identity and gender expression were added as prohibited grounds of discrimination in the Canadian Human Rights Act in 2017.  Some provinces had legislation preventing discrimination based on gender identity starting in 2012. Transgender rights in Canada, including procedures for changing legal gender assignment and protections from discrimination, vary among provinces and territories. In a 2015 survey of trans folk in Ontario, almost 66% had avoided public spaces or situations because they feared harassment, being perceived as trans, or being “outed” as trans. The majority (57%) of trans Ontarians had avoided public washrooms due to these safety fears. Gyms, travel abroad, malls, schools, and restaurants
were also commonly avoided. 

So yes this work of inclusion, of love, of justice is still needed even today and we are responding to that call out of our faith, our lived experience and our hope for a better tomorrow.

MORE INFORMATION

We’ve put together this AFFIRMING RESOURCES web page with information and resources you may find helpful as you explore the very large world of gender identities and sexual orientations, as well as the importance of acceptance, inclusion, welcoming and affirmation within the church and our larger community. It includes various resources, from educational videos to community websites to lists of films and books on subjects related to affirming people of all gender identities and sexual orientations. We hope these resources help you on your journey. We know they have been, and continue to be, helpful to us!


A FEW RELATED EVENTS FROM THIS PAST WINTER

(CMUC and community events)

Jan 30 – Feb 2:  Kiinalik: These Sharp Tools,  PuSH Festival
Performance Works

A concert, a conversation and a multimedia performance all in one, Kiinalik: These Sharp Tools is the meeting point for two people—Inuk artist Laakkuluk Williamson Bathory and queer theatre-maker Evalyn Parry—and two places: Canada’s North and South. After having met on an Arctic expedition from Iqaluit to Greenland, Williamson Bathory and Parry now share a stage; these two powerful singers and storytellers, aided by music and video projection, give voice and body to the histories, culture and climate we’ve inherited, and ask how we reckon with “these sharp tools.”

Jan 31: Survivors Totem Pole Documentary Screening, SFU Woodward’s, 7-9pm
https://www.facebook.com/events/2304602912918335/?active_tab=about 

The Survivors Totem Pole is a grassroots community art and action project. The pole is a three-year collaboration between DTES advocates, First Nations, members of the LGBTQ community, along with Japanese, Chinese and South Asian survivors of racism. The Survivors Totem Pole symbolizes inclusion in the Downtown Eastside as well as resilience, fierce resistance and solidarity of people in the DTES community. Carved from a 1,000-year-old cedar tree, the Survivor’s Totem Pole was raised in Pigeon Park on November 5th, 2016.

Image may contain: one or more people and hatFeb 4: Rafiki,  Film Screening (Black History Month + LGBTQ) @ Vancity Theatre, 6:30pm

Bursting with the colorful street style & music of Nairobi’s vibrant youth culture, Rafiki is a tender love story between two young women in a country that still criminalizes homosexuality. Kena and Ziki have long been told that “good Kenyan girls become good Kenyan wives” – but they yearn for something more. Despite the political rivalry between their families, the girls encourage each other to pursue their dreams in a conservative society. When love blossoms between them, Kena and Ziki must choose between happiness and safety.

Initially banned in Kenya for its positive portrayal of queer romance, Rafiki won a landmark supreme court case chipping away at Kenyan anti-LGBT legislation.

For tickets go to: https://goviff.org/rafiki/